If things are fine and you want them to stay that way, start with making a couple last. If the tension is about logistics, everyday life together is more direct. If it is about money — the subject couples discuss least and argue about most — money and couples sets out the three or four decisions better taken explicitly.
And if you cannot tell whether this is a bad patch or something else, the rough patch or real problem questionnaire settles it in seven questions.
Twelve situations — arguments, making up, friendship, plans — and a commented result, with no final verdict.
Days, weeks, next milestones, next anniversary and the name of the next wedding anniversary — to share.
Secure, anxious, avoidant or fearful: twelve situations to recognise the way you love, and what helps.
The role the partner takes without choosing it, what actually helps, and when the question becomes leave or stay.
Couples that last are not the ones that never argue. They are the ones that argue without doing damage.
What wears a couple down is almost never a big event: it is the division of chores, the same argument coming back, and the in-laws. Three subjects thought minor that in fact decide.
Ideas for an evening, a Sunday or a weekend, with or without the children, without leaving your own area.
It is the thing couples argue about most, and the thing they discuss last. Three decisions settle most of it: how you split, whose name things are in, and what happens if you separate.
Retirement, one partner's illness, the carer role, then widowhood. The last stage of a life together is the least written about, and the one where the decisions weigh most.
Real frequency, motives, to confess or not, staying or leaving, rebuilding trust — and what the law makes of it by country.
Normal or pathological jealousy, its causes, what helps, and the clear line with control and violence.
Page checked in September 2026. The instruments cited can change: if in doubt, confirm with the official source given.
The most frequently cited reasons for separating are not the most spectacular: the division of chores, money, and the feeling of no longer being seen. Three ordinary-looking subjects, each with its page here, and each one workable — unlike incompatibility of character, which is invoked afterwards to summarise the other three.
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