What changes for the couple
Longitudinal studies of the transition to parenthood agree on one uncomfortable point: relationship satisfaction falls on average after a first child, and it falls further where the division of labour is felt to be unfair. It is not tiredness that damages a couple, it is the sense of carrying it alone.
Three things genuinely protect against this: discussing the division before the birth rather than after, naming the mental load, and keeping some time as a couple fixed in the week.
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Raising a child together
- Agree the main rules together, apply them separately.
- Do not correct your partner in front of the child. Have that conversation afterwards.
- Protect each other's sleep in turn. Chronic exhaustion in one partner underlies most of the conflict of the first year.
- Accept practical help. Asking is not an admission of failure.
- Watch for postnatal depression, in fathers as well as mothers.
