When to see someone, and who
Pain during sex is never normal: it has a cause, and finding it is a job for a doctor, a midwife or a gynaecologist. Erection difficulties or ejaculation that comes too quickly, when they have lasted more than a few months or are weighing on your life, also deserve an appointment — all the more so because erectile difficulties are sometimes the first visible sign of a cardiovascular problem or of diabetes.
And to know who to turn to depending on what you feel — family doctor, urologist, gynaecologist, sex therapist, psychologist, physiotherapist —, the page Who to see, and when goes through the symptoms one by one; the page Sex therapy explains who sex therapists are and what a consultation is like.
What these pages will not do
They make no diagnosis and replace no examination. What they do: give you the vocabulary to describe what you feel, remind you what is treatable — almost all of it — and separate what belongs to the body from what belongs to tiredness, stress or the relationship, because that line is rarely where people think it is.
The anatomy page comes first on purpose: a good share of the difficulties reported in consultations come simply from not knowing how bodies work.