Three systems, all valid
| Civil marriage | Under the Marriage Act, monogamous, before a marriage officer. |
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| Customary marriage | Under the Recognition of Customary Marriages Act: valid once lobola has been negotiated and the customary ceremony performed, and it may be polygynous. It must be registered with Home Affairs within a set period. |
| Civil union | Open to same-sex and opposite-sex couples alike; South Africa was the fifth country in the world to recognise same-sex marriage. |
See civil marriage in South Africa.
Register the customary marriage
A customary marriage is legally valid the moment the requirements are met — but if it is not registered, proving it later is difficult and transcribing it abroad is close to impossible. Registration is a short administrative act with long consequences; do it immediately after the ceremony rather than eventually.
The property regime, decided before the wedding
A civil marriage is in community of property by default — assets and debts merge entirely. Choosing otherwise requires an antenuptial contract signed before a notary before the marriage; afterwards it takes a court order. The accrual system is the usual alternative. This is the decision with the greatest financial consequence in the whole process and it is routinely made by default rather than deliberately.
Documents for the foreign partner
- Passport with entry stamp and proof of lawful status
- A letter of no impediment from the embassy
- Where previously married, the divorce decree or death certificate
- Both parties must be interviewed separately by the Department of Home Affairs where one is foreign — an anti-fraud measure applied as standard
The spousal visa
A spousal or relative visa is applied for, and this is where the difficulty actually lies: Home Affairs processing times are the principal constraint on any plan, and they have run to many months or longer. Build the calendar around the department's timelines, not around the wedding date.
The chain, and the order that governs it
Wherever you marry, the sequence is the same. What changes is the content of each step.
| 1. The capacity document | Issued by your country: certificate of no impediment, of marital capacity, of capacity to marry, depending on the name. Ask for it before the ceremony — it is the critical path. |
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| 2. Notice or banns | A public posting for a period set by your own law. |
| 3. The interview | Common where one spouse is foreign. An ordinary formality, not an accusation: it goes well where the couple exists. |
| 4. The ceremony | Before the local civil authority. That alone has legal effect. |
| 5. Legalisation | Of the local certificate, by consular legalisation or apostille depending on the applicable conventions, then translation. |
| 6. Registration at home | Transcription, registration, insertion: the name varies, the function is the same. |
| 7. The spouse visa | A separate application, which assumes step 6 is done. The delays add up. |
A customary or religious ceremony does not replace civil marriage
It can gather three hundred people and bind two families: without a civil certificate there is nothing to have recognised at home, and no spouse visa. Do both, in whichever order you like — but do both.